Wang Shuquan: the central education scientific research institute researcher, medical psychology association Beijing children's mental health professional committee, famous children's development experts.
In raising children the process of growing up, not only need to use scientific concept as guidance, and need to have the rich life experience for support. Close to real life, because when, because to accord with a child's growth needs and development characteristics of parenting style, which means "ground gas" early education mode, is what we advocate.
To understand the children
First read the child's living environment
Research has suggested that, China now has 10% of children's psychological problems exist to varying degrees, the peak of 7 to 10 years old. And learning disabilities, shy, inferiority, the attention is not centralized, and many other problems, not into the primary school was suddenly appear, but in the 0 to 6 years old is "training" out.
Cultivate the physical and mental health of children, parents should first health. Because the family atmosphere, parents thought behavior and mental is the child grow the psychological environment. If parents blindly concern intellectual development, value examination results, spoil things by excessive enthusiasm, this kind of single dimension training practice, away from the child body and mind development law, the result not only cultivate a clever boy, but also because of the child's emotional behavior problems influence academic progress.
As a parent must first strengthen its accomplishment, for children to create a harmonious, warm family atmosphere, pay attention to the child all aspects of balanced development, standing in the children's point of view to understand children, children into the depths of the soul. Only read children's survival environment, read children, which can effectively carry out early education.
The early growth of children, such as a piece of fertile virgin land. Elaborate growers, dress up to the green, and rude person will only make it more and more poor.
Education need to adjust measures to local conditions
Parents need to imitation introspection
Popular TV series "Beijing youth" in have so a interesting lines, believed that the general Chinese parents are familiar with: "I is good for you!" This is typical of Chinese education. Keep the child's big fear, is silent child's idea, from their own intend to start, to design the child's development model.
Every child has a unique type of temperament, or lively, or quiet, or sensitive, etc. With the process of growth and development, they also anytime survival environment, culture, interpersonal relations influence, form different personality characteristics. Temperament and personality itself is no better points, the key to see how we are going to breeding. Parents' first priority, namely of the child's temperament types, coordinate foster skills.
Extensive education, usually "YiGuoZhu", apply mechanically with a pattern education all children. Delicate education, according to the child's different psychological needs and temperament type, help children to finish their growth. So, let fine development gradually, and need further exploration. As parents, have a responsibility to reflect upon your own personality, their culture, their mind to the child the influence of development, conscious of the need for children to create a good psychological environment and the growth conditions. (Beijing morning post)